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Be Your Own Valentine

2/14/2017

 
Happy Valentine's Day! This is a day that some of us love and

some of us loathe for the same reasons--hearts, flowers,

chocolate, and Hallmark. Wherever you land along that

continuum, this year, why not focus on the most important

relationship you have—the one with yourself? By loving all of

yourself, you'll set in motion a domino effect that positively

affects everything you do. Lack of self-love wreaks havoc in

every area of life - from career, to friendships, to personal goals.

When there's a lack of self- love, life seems like a struggle - as if

you're always getting the short end of the stick.


Every time we resist our true nature, doubt our intuition,

give away our power, question our worth, or contain what

is rising in us, we fall out of flow with life.

                                                                     -Rebecca Campbell.


When I was in graduate school late in the last century, I was

learning (and more importantly, experiencing) systems theory in

groups, a way to explore behavior patterns and human

experience. Professors and peers often reminded my

classmates and me to "Trust the process and trust yourself in

the process". In 1988, those phrases were years away from

trending.  I wondered what trusting the process meant. How

could I do something that I had only a vague notion about? 


Over time I discovered that strength lies in the willingness to

slow down, turn inward and build a strong and loving

relationship with myself.  And then finding the courage to peel

back all those layers of fear, struggle and limitation that are

blocking living ones highest potential.  Love is the opposite of

fear.  Trusting ourselves means taking care of ourselves so that

we increase our capacity to love others. By embracing love,

instead of fear, we become an example of the compassion and

strength needed to help make the world a better place, one

action at a time.


Each of us has the ability to influence the world, see the beauty

in life and spread love through our attitudes and actions. When

you assemble the courage to trust yourself and the process, you

access the power to transform the world. Everyone has the

inner resources they need to makes changes in their lives.


Accessing and receiving information from those resources may

be blocked by the beliefs we hold that keep us from loving and

accepting ourselves. These beliefs are buried in the

subconscious mind. When that voice in your mind arises - the

one that tells you that you're dreaming too big, or you don't have

what it takes, or that you're not good enough, or that it won't

work out - love yourself enough to not listen to it.  It is up to you

how much power you give it, and how much energy you invest

in its words. It is up to you what you do with these stories once

they start to play.


Your freedom, and ultimately your happiness, lies in your ability

to gently withdraw your attention from this voice, and search

within for another form of wisdom. Emotional Freedom

Techniques (EFT-Tapping)
is a wonderful tool for clearing the

old stories and accessing the goodness within.

 
Questions can also help you gently open to receive inner

guidance and  bring up this information, and release past events

or people that no longer serve you.   This new clarity opens the

door to making the changes and adjustments that will bring the

joy, wellbeing, peace and abundance that you long for.


Questions have the potential to change anything. Asking

questions is a powerful way to get in touch with the power

within. When you ask a question you tell the Universe that you

are willing to receive infinite possibilities to change a situation,

to gain awareness, or to have more insight.


Here are four questions you can ask yourself...to help you figure

out how to "trust yourself and trust the process"--even if you

don't know what the heck it means. Don’t worry about having

the “right answer” as these questions don’t have “right or wrong

answers”-- just awareness of possibilities from which you can

choose what is true for you. This is a place to play and not to

judge you. The more willing you are to allow whatever shows up

the more benefit you will receive.


1. What am I allowing myself to give birth to?  The real

secret to trusting the process is to honoring the natural rhythms.

Easing your judgmental tendencies and embracing the

contractions no matter how much they hurt. As Quaker author

Eileen Flanagan writes in Listen With Your Heart:


By speaking honestly, listening non-defensively and

waiting patiently,
we help create the space where love can

reveal itself.



2. How can I balance control with surrender? The reason it’s

so hard to trust the process is because it’s a form of

surrendering; and for many people, that’s a terrifying

preposition. Human beings have an inherent need to preserve

their sense of control. And any time they feel it being taken

away from them, they freak out.


I’m reminded of the Arabian proverb, “Trust God, but tie up your

camel.” That’s the real secret: To balance letting go with

preserving control.


3. Whose permission am I waiting for? Don’t be stopped by

not knowing how. How is the barrier to trusting the process.

Learn to be a learner...if you always waited until you knew what

you were doing, you’d never do anything.


You don’t have to get good to get going; but you do need to get

going to get good.


4. What would it take to create more ease and joy in my life

than I could ever possibly imagine?
When you infuse your

process with deep purpose, it’s noticeably easier to trust it.

That’s why rituals are so critical. They carve a pathway. They

create a sacred container around what you’re about to engage

in.


Trusting the process is a spiritual discipline, an investment in

the stability of the Universe.


Below is a Co-Creative Mandala--"Trust". Before you answer

the questions, I invite you to take a moment and sit with this Co-

Creative Mandala. Allow Trust to emerge from within your being.

Notice what happens in your body. Notice the thoughts and

feelings that arise. Read the Mandala Message. Let the words

settle in. How true are the words for you? What do you need for

the words to be 100% true? Use this information to access all

parts of yourself…the parts that you have yet to accept and the

parts that you already embrace. 


This is the time for renewal, healing, and being still.

Be patient with yourself.

Trust the process and trust your inner and outer resources.

Enjoy the gifts that turning inward brings.


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